It can be nerve-wracking trying to figure out when is the right time to move conversations off of Tinder and into real life. So how long should you chat with someone before meeting up? Deciding when to take that step and meet your match face-to-face depends on a variety of factors, such as comfort level and relationship goals.
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1. Get to Know the Other Person Before Meeting In-Person.
Before taking the plunge and deciding to meet up with someone you’re chatting with on Tinder, take the time to get to know the other person. This helps ensure that when the two of you do finally meet in-person, it will be enjoyable and risk-free. Ask meaningful questions and get a feel for who they are - consider this part of your due diligence. Additionally, some people prefer to keep conversations solely online before meeting face-to-face. Ultimately, if you’re both comfortable enough and interested in one another, take things offline and arrange a date!
2. Keep It Positive and Know When to Move On.
Even though chatting is a good way to get to know someone, don’t stay idle for too long. If you don’t feel comfortable with the other person after two or three days of messaging, it might be time to move on. Additionally, it’s important to keep conversations light-hearted and fun - if things start becoming heavy, this is a clear sign that it might be time to take the conversation offline. When discussing topics that are meaningful and personal, it shows that you both are ready for the next stage in your relationship.
3. Ask Meaningful Questions to Ensure Quality Talks.
Asking thoughtful and meaningful questions can help you weed out incompatible conversations before taking things further. Ask your Tinder matches about their passions, hobbies, favorite activities, and preferences to get a better idea of who they are and if they would be a good match for you. Not only do deeper questions provide more detailed insight into the other person’s character, but it also shows that you genuinely care about getting to know them better - which could lead to an unexpected connection.
4. Set a Date With Enough Time To Discuss Your Match's Interests at Length.
After finding common ground with your match through conversation, it’s time to make a plan and get together in the real world. Research suggests that it takes around two hours of chatting for people to truly connect - so if you’re setting a date too soon into your conversations, you may miss out! Don't rush into it, take things slow and use your chats as an opportunity to get an honest feel for who your match is without the pressure of meeting face-to-face.
5. Agree on Confirmation Protocols for Safety Purposes.
It's important to agree and reconfirm details of your date prior to meeting in-person - such as venue, time and date. When possible it's wise to meet in a public place where you feel comfortable, even if you're sure who you're meeting is harmless. If you don't know the person well, consider telling someone close about who you are meeting - as well as providing estimated times of when you set off and return home. This can help provide safety for yourself but also those closest to you!